What she did on May 19 - 24 2023

 asked where Eleanor is since it's been....6 days with her without any news, not allowing me to see/meet Eleanor. Her short day offs are over 6 days, she lied just to get her hands on Eleanor, clearly

so it's been....almost 12 o clock and she didn't respond my text, no calls made

i can guess she's preventing me see Eleanor at all cost.

She video called Olivia on May 19th and I let her talk to Olivia...but she did not let me talk to Eleanor.

What she did on May 18 2023

 

texed me last night about bringing Eleanor to her with PE uniform. I forgot her school bag, planned to drop her school bag after work.

When i dropped Eleanor off her place, her uncle is visiting her.

4PM, texted me to bring all school uniforms, she's got 2 sets of school uniforms.

My summary? Change of plan all of a sudden? I have the right to ask why because that's my daughter, but as usual, she will never tell me anything, not even a stay overnight etc or when to return Eleanor to me.

The reason why I need Eleanor and Olivia with me, She has to work and noone would look after them. Even if she quit her work, She would demand insane amount of financial support, and when I provided it to her like during Dec 2021-Jan2022, She wouldn't even do anything and keep on demanding more

and stated that I have to pay for her mother's assistance as well... During Dec21-Jan22 I was barely able to see my own daughters...she kept both to herself, whenever it's their turn to stay here, both of them would convince me to let my daughters stay there,

it's clear that when my daughters arent allowed to meet both me and my parent

What she did on May 16 2023

 

called twice, I missed it, and asked me to pick up olivia...couldn't do it with short notice. She said she couldn't drop olivia here before work

but........

https://youtu.be/IWTtuoG1Jwo

showed up to pick up the letter, while couldn't drop olivia off here...again...ordering me around like a slave as usual, why slave? that attitude of her...it's like talking to a slave or someone lower... never respected me anyway so there's that....not that i care anymore

and did this, on her own will...

What she did on May 13 2023

 called me at 9:49AM about picking kids up, but eleanor wasn't home as she went out with my parents.

she decided to pick Olivia up at 10AM and told me she's picking her stuff up as well

https://youtu.be/C2DGJlm90i8

https://youtu.be/5WXPzgjPTn0

Did not say anything about staying over there

On May 14 in the morning, I sent images of the letter addressed to her.

did not hear anything until today (may 15) and Olivia is still with her.

What she did on April 27th 2023

 Texted me about picking childrens up, I was busy at work, totally unprepared due to short notice.Tried to pick both children up at 10:39AM but Eleanor refused to go with her. She picked Olivia up and that's it.

Never told me about staying over night etc. just no information...I'll just focus on my work...it's a busy day after all

what she did on april 22nd 2023

 

texted me on saturday, told me to bring Eleanor and Olivia to her the next day, but never mentioned either morning/noon/night or time. I had to ask and she only said morning.

planned a breakfast tomorrow so told her after breakfast. On Sunday 8:34, called and texted to bring them there now, again, she never said when exactly and we were in the middle of having breakfast.

and fast forward to today, never mentioned anything about staying for the night or when she'll be returning Eleanor and Olivia. She won't be dropping them off here but tell me to pick them up as usual

why didn't I ask? i'm tired of asking everytime and tired of being ordered around last minute. she'll just text/call me to pick them up at the last minute, and I rushed there few times...she'll just hold them there for snacks, drinks etc, ended up wasting 15-30 minutes of my time standing in front of her house.

cool example;

Imagine it this way, you're required to work but your employer never told you your shift every single time even if you asked, they'll just tell you last minute, you work NOW, or no work until tomorrow (and you'll have to ask again for tomorrow's shift)

What she did on April 16 2023

 

did not mention anything about staying over night with her and never told me anything until now...

I'll just pretend I don't care about when she'll be returning Olivia back to me...because I don't want to have an argument with her anymore...i'm tired...I've given up on her.

what she did on april 14 2023

 

picked olivia up at 11AM, dropped her back home 11:50AM and Olivia fell asleep.

Woke up as soon as she passed to me and kissed her goodbye.

Slept at 4PM to 5PMish

she knew Olivia would be sleeping around 11-12ish but took her out...

What she did Apr 8-9 2023

 

asked if kids are still sick and warned about 5PM as if she'd be coming for one of them and pick up (any)

she showed up at 5:08PM. Tried Eleanor and failed, so pick Olivia.

Never told me if kid will be staying over her place but she dropped the "did you bring her medications?" question suggesting staying over, again, never told me

video called Eleanor at 7:28PM, saw the background and they're at home so I told her i can only send her medicines after work.

She claimed Olivia was sleepy, but video showed her playing

Next day, I asked her when should I pick Olivia up and the only answer was "She's staying with me" answer from her, no other information was given, and no mentioning about off today or having Eleanor coming over her place etc.

attempt to use Olivia as some sort of leverage/hostage situation to get back in here and I had to refuse

video called Eleanor

blaming me and my parents all of a sudden but i get the gist of what happened during the conversation with Eleanor.

what she did MArch 19 2023

 on MArch 18 10PM she texted me she would be here tomorrow morning for olivia, going to bring her out for breakfast? idk

so she's here in the morning, asking for olivia, diapers, and empty red pocket, she said she forgot to bring it herself, i asked what it is for she didn't answer anything, and asked for bottled water said just in case...idk what're those for as she wouldn't tell

she said it wouldn't take long, just breakfast and that's it (that doesn't explain the red pocket and water part)

cctv footage of her arriving, she should be able to see my mother through the hole of my fence...

what she did 17 march 2023

 brought olivia back home in the morning at 8AM. olivia cried as i hold her since she still want to go with either her, or bike or both.

another repetition started here, passing her and getting her back, i'm finally done with it, told her to hold her as much as she wants and i'll be back once she's done...

after awhile she finally passed it back to me and i brought her back inside...

when i'm about to close the gate, she demanded olivia again, just to film her crying over her leaving... and i must bring her out again, no matter what...that's who she is and what she has always wanted...everything must according to her plan and must happen or she goes upset...

guess what? i had to bring olivia out again...or she wouldn't leave...

what she did March 16 2023

 called me at 530pm ish about picking eleanor up, told me to bath her first.

tried to pick her up at 6PM but eleanor refused to go with her, picked olivia instead but did not have toddler chair attached on her bike

told her to go back and bring the chair first. she's either failed to comphrehend or no idea how to process that information or whatever, stayed on her bike...did nothing but looking at olivia and ended up holding olivia telling her she would bring the chair...and then for some unknown reason would not do it since olivia is crying everytime i hold her as olivia wanted to ride the bike. so passing olivia twice and i'm done doing pointless repetitive task, told her just to bring olivia home safely since she would not want to bring the chair.

what she did Mar 14 2023

texted me at 8AM said she'll be picking eleanor up from school.

called at 9AM told me she won't be picking eleanor up from school, will pick her up at 3:30pm

picked eleanor up at 4PM. eleanor said she doesn't want to come home late, she said it won't take long and she'll be back home about 5PM

called me at 4:50PM asking me to pick her up. I was busy and was never informed that I'll be picking her up, assuming that she picked eleanor up, she'll be the one driving her home

i said no can't do, busy...and told her she should be the one driving eleanor home, she said ok, 

so i wait until 6ish and told her i can pick her up now and she said later

called at 7PM to ask me to pick her up

when i reached there, she blamed me for scaring eleanor for going out at night

i replied yeah, need to bath her, tutor her....

for the record, she brought eleanor out until 9pm or 10pm, skipped bath and skipped tutor, and there's school tomorrow, good parent? i don't think so...hence the curvew...i'm not scaring my own daughter, but it's for her own good and safety

What she did Feb 22 2023

 Was suppose to pick her up at 7:30PM as promised yesterday.

she texted me at 3:56PM to tell me that eleanor will be staying with her for the day and I'll be picking her up tomorrow afterschool. 

I said OK

at about 8:00PM she called me, telling me to pick eleanor up because she had to work in the morning...i said i can do it right now but she said can't do as eleanor is eating and asked me to pick her up at 8:15. I replied no, I can only pick her up right now at 8PM, telling her i'm not free after 8PM

Actually I can do it but I chose not to because I need her to taste her own medicine or she'll be like that for the rest of her life. Always changing her decision, even at last minute. If she couldn't make it then don't force it and change it last minute

what she did with the kids Feb 21 2023

 at 11AM, she dropped olivia to me while on her way to pick eleanor's up from school. she said she would be having a meeting and that was it, no actual work beside the meeting for today

eleanor will be staying with her for the day

I said i would pick her up tonight about 7:30PM and she said eleanor will be staying with her until tomorrow.

I said 7:30PM tomorrow and she OKed, i asked if she's getting another day off, she read my text and stayed quite about it

here's what she likes...going out.....for the whole day....she couldn't go out if both kids are with her so i can tell she dropped olivia here so she can go out with eleanor.

called her at 7:27PM and yes they're outside, idk where they're but they're not at home and probably dinner? idk...

She isn't the type that'll tell me everything but demanded me to tell her everything in return, and i'm glad we're no longer together so i'm not obliged to tell her

what she did with the kid February 20 2023

as discussed on the day before, i would deliver eleanor's school uniform and school bag to the front door. hung it on their gate, informed her at 6:02

by almost 10am, she said she would pick eleanor's up after school, telling me she has another day off...insisted on picking her up eventhough i was already at school so i went back

i told her that i would drop olivia at night so i did at 8PM

as promised, 2 kids with her on day offs...

what she did with the kid February 19, 2023

 picked eleanor up at 3:40PM ish, told me they're going to the church

called me at 6:30PM, asking me TT for eleanor's toy, i refused and deemed it unneccessary.

at 7:40PM i asked their wehereabout. at 8PMish i called, asking about eleanor

why? school at 7AM, it's 8PM, eleanor missed shower, went out for hours, who's going to the bed without a proper shower after all the pandemic shit? 

I told her, after 9PM, i won't open the door for her. it's her responsibility to take care of what she did

guess what? showed up at 9:02PM. I sent them back to her home.

Why? on February 5, 2023. She brought eleanor out after her nap, reached her home until 10PM. School at 7AM in the morning. no shower at night and no shower before school. She was recovering from sickness (still coughing). vomit @ midnight

called me at 6AM asking me if she should send eleanor to school...for the record, she new eleanor was still recovering, she knew it was no holiday

that's WHY I'm so pissed off about what she did today...repeating her mistake?

oh yeah, she's still coughing, just not as bad as before

for God's sake...be a responsible mother.

what she did with kids February 18 2023

brought eleanor to the pool in the morning, brought no additional clothings, went home by motorcycle completely wet

brought olivia to the pool in the evening from about 5-6, brought additional clothes this time, by motorcycle